How do we measure the meaningful things in our lives? Our success? I suppose I compartmentalize some things between friends and family, work (because usually I’m being evaluated without being requested to share any feedback myself), and other life things. Some of the big things, like finishing school, buying a house, buying a used car, finishing a race, and completing a project give a definitive mark of completion – something to easily measure your accomplishment. More often than not, it’s the small accomplishments that aren’t marked as “done” where I measure success and meaning.
For me, I find myself proud of my plants. My gardening is continuous, but every bloom or vegetable that appears marks a new success. I’m still going to work on it – I have to or else it may not survive, and because this is what I like to do. Now that the season is shifting into fall, I’m pretty much done with new planting. My outside garden has been weeded, mulched, and watered. That’s about it. I’m going to enjoy it until the plants go dormant as the temperatures continue to drop. Many of them will come back again next year, and it is always a joyful surprise to see what makes it, what has expanded, and where I forgot things were planted.
As far as my house plants, I’m very good at the green ones without flowers. The ones you water weekly that aren’t too fussy. Over the past few years, I’ve occasionally received roses, orchids, and other flowering house plants that just didn’t survive for too long. I had told myself I’m just not good at flowers inside. Well, that’s not true – it’s really more of a challenge. I bought an african violet plant, full of flowers, to try again many months ago. It’s a fussy plant that needs just-so light, watering from the roots, and special plant food. Needless to say, it took me a little while to find the right light and I didn’t buy the plant food until after all the flowers fell. This time, I didn’t give up. I decided that I was up for the challenge to see if I could nurture the plant back into blooming.
The week before the flowers suddenly appeared, I even contemplated throwing out the plant into my compost pile and declaring myself unable to house-bloom. I’m so glad that I kept trying. This, my friends, is how I measure my success. I did a thing that I didn’t think I could do – that I almost gave up on. And I did it well.
I now own another african violet plant, and I am proud to say that I have not lost its flowers. They sit near one another as reminders to keep trying, and you will grow.